Yesterday I took my daughter to buy a bathing suit ~ Memorial Day and the opening of pools everywhere is not that far off. Last year she was into coverage. This was bikini year. Not itsy bitsy, but a bikini nonetheless. As the mother of 4 daughters, I have shopped for many, many bathing suits over the years. I have watched and experienced the self-confidence and modesty issues that surround bathing suits - both theirs and mine.
I was surprised by the fact that she did not appear at all uncomfortable wearing a bikini. While I had the typical mother reaction of "too-much-skin," I was at the same time proud that she feels confident and secure about her body. With the pressure our society puts on young girls and body image, it is rare for a girl (or woman) of any age to feel comfortable in her body. As she was checking herself out in the mirror, I was debating whether to say something about too-much-skin. If I did, would it make her question her body? would her self-confidence melt? would it give rise to insecurity? I'm lucky that she is still at the age that she values my opinion, wants to please me and actually follows what say. She trusts me. I trust her. I don't want to upset that - the balance betwixt girlhood and between womanhood. Betwixt & between = my tween.